Narcissistic People And You

Narcissistic People….More Common Than You Think

Have you encountered people who for unknown reasons must be the center of attention and demand in sometimes not so subtle ways the adoration of everyone?  Have you encountered people who are charming, entertaining, witty, and almost seductive only to find out later they have manipulated you into a relationship be it business, social and even sexual that you regret?  Have you encountered people who once you disagree with them and refuse to follow their lead they do demeaning acts toward you that are shameful and hurtful and even destructive to your character?  You have just been in the spell of a narcissistic person.

According to the staff of Mayo Clinic narcissistic personality disorder is a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration. Those with narcissistic personality disorder believe that they’re superior to others and have little regard for other people’s feelings. But behind this mask of ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem, vulnerable to the slightest criticism.

Mayo Clinic research has also found evidence that links the cause of narcissistic behaviors to a dysfunctional childhood, such as excessive pampering, extremely high expectations, abuse or neglect especially by parents as the most prevalent triggers. Other evidence points to genetics or psychobiology — the connection between the brain and behavior and thinking.

Narcissistic individuals will mostly only engage in environments where they are in control, superior to all others or receive false praise from others.

Risk factors for narcissistic personality disorder may include:

  • Parental disdain for fears and needs expressed during childhood
  • Lack of affection and praise during childhood
  • Neglect and emotional abuse in childhood
  • Unpredictable or unreliable caregiving from parents
  • Learning manipulative behaviors from parents

Children who learn from their parents that vulnerability is unacceptable may lose their ability to empathize with others’ needs. They may also mask their emotional needs with grandiose, egotistical behavior that’s calculated to make them seem emotionally “bulletproof.”

Finally, psychotherapy is recommended as a treatment modality but the “bulletproof” thinking of a narcissistic person will most likely stop the individual from seeking counseling.  The only fear of confronting a narcissistic sociopathic person is how they will attempt to destroy you.  Never worry about hurting their feelings because they are totally insulated from feeling for others or being impacted by what other say about them.

How do you interact with narcissistic people in your interactions?


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