Domestic Abuse – Breaking The Cycle

The most common type of abuse in the mind of many people is when someone hits or in some manner physically do bodily harm to another person.  There are many types of abuse that not so surprisingly occurs with a greater frequency and by many is often overlooked or dismissed as being abuse.   At the center of all abuse is the dysfunctional attitude of entitlement to used both power and every means possible to control the very essence of a spouse or anyone who might find themselves in what appears to be a close relationship with an abusive individual.  An abusive individual is a violent person that has learned to cunningly invoke physical as well as sexual dominance over others utilizing a much broader spectrum of manipulative tactics that contradict and confounds anyone who attempts to reason with such an individual.

The eight subcategories of abuse are:

1.  Emotional Abuse – Put downs, name calling, mind games, humiliation, attempts to make one feel “crazy”

2.  Economic Abuse – Preventing from getting or keeping a job, must ask for money, taking money away

3.  Intimidation – Making afraid by looks, actions, gestures, destruction of property, showing weapons

4.  Using Children – Forcing them to relay messages, threats to take children away, using visits to harass

5.  Using Male Privilege –  Treating female as a servant, unilateral decision making, self defining of all roles

6.  Minimizing/Denying/Blaming – Making light of abusing, no regard for the abused, denying that one’s behaviors are in fact abusive, blaming the abused for why they are being abused by the abuser

7.  Threats – To hurt, to leave, to hurt self or person being abused, to report a shameful event

8.  Isolation – Full control of what the other person does, who they see, where they go, limiting outside interactions with others, jealousy is a tool to justify such an attitude

I found a compelling article dated February 8, 2008 in Reuters based on findings from The Center For Disease Control (CDC) about the impact of domestic violence on women as well as men.

(Reuters) – About a quarter of U.S. women suffer domestic violence, U.S. health officials reported on Thursday, with ongoing health problems that one activist likened to the effects of living in a war zone.

Some men also experience domestic violence, a Centers for Disease Control and Prevention survey found.

The CDC said 23.6 percent of women and 11.5 percent of men reported being a victim of what it called “intimate partner violence” at some time in their lives.

The CDC defined this as threatened, attempted or completed physical or sexual violence or emotional abuse by a spouse, former spouse, current or former boyfriend or girlfriend or a dating partner. The CDC estimates that 1,200 women are killed and 2 million injured in domestic violence annually.

Many of these women have other long-term health risks and problems, the CDC said.

“It confirms … that living in a dangerous and stressful environment has long-term health impacts. It’s like living in a war zone,” said Rita Smith, executive director of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, an advocacy group.

More than 70,000 people in 16 U.S. states and two territories — Puerto Rico and the U.S. Virgin Islands — responded to the CDC survey in 2005.

Black women were more likely to report domestic violence than whites or Hispanics, but it was most frequent among multiracial, American Indian and Alaska native women.

Women of all income and education levels suffer such abuse, although it was more frequent among the poorest and those who attended but did not graduate from college.

“Perhaps one of the factors at play here is the high prevalence of sexual violence on college campuses, and dating violence,” Michele Black, a CDC epidemiologist who helped write the agency’s report, said in a telephone interview.

Black said she could not say whether domestic violence rates were rising. The results were comparable with those of a 1995 government survey that found that 24.8 percent of women and 7.6 percent of men reported suffering domestic violence.

The CDC said women who suffer domestic violence are three times as likely to engage in risky sex and 70 percent more likely to drink heavily than other women.

They are also twice as likely to report that their activities are limited by physical, mental or emotional problems and 50 percent more likely to use a cane, wheelchair or other disability equipment, the CDC survey found.

These women also were 80 percent more likely to have a stroke, 70 percent more likely to have heart disease or arthritis and 60 percent more likely to have asthma.

Kiersten Stewart, director of public policy for the Family Violence Prevention Fund advocacy group, said the CDC figures broadly fit other assessments that about a quarter to a third of U.S. women experience domestic violence.

Stewart endorsed the CDC’s call for doctors to ask women about possible domestic violence if they are showing signs of stress or other symptoms indicating possible violence.

(Editing by Maggie Fox and Alan Elsner)

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What are your thoughts about Domestic Violence and what are some measures that should become a part of Public Policy to lower the staggering rate of such violence?



One Response

  1. Thanks for your important work. My wife and I produced this video using my original song, “Don’t Feel Like Heaven Anymore,” in order to heighten awareness regarding violence against women. Here is the link:

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