Sexual Gratification – May Be Driven By Personal and or Relational Conflict

Sex has been around since the world began.  What is it about intercourse that will cause men and women to endanger their reputation, career, family, and even their spiritual status?  A study conducted by The National Institute of Health suggests that sexual behavior within relationships has more to do with each person’s ability to communicate honestly to self and also to their mate their “personal” sexual mindset along with how they derived their attitude about sex and the role it plays in one’s “personal” self.  Within a “relational” setting, one’s “personal” mindset often becomes the elephant in the room that leads to unmet expectations in marriages.  Within the “relationship” both individuals may conclude that it is acceptable to bring all of their “personal” conclusions about what sex is or isn’t in a marriage.  Surprisingly, according to a study conducted at NIH, this is an area of communication that couples do not openly converse prior to moving into a long term or permanent relationship.  Sexual satisfaction or the lack thereof is the primary predictor of Infidelity within a relationship.

The determination of gratification from the husband’s perspective often differs from the wife’s and visa versa.  Below is a detailed analysis from NIH about sexual pleasure from research conducted to determine some of the reasons why females and men may approach the sexual encounter differently.  Neither husbands or wives should have to even entertain the thought of seeking sexual fulfillment anywhere except within the confine of a loving, communicative relationship that has the goal of meeting the within bounds of sexual fulfillment of each person.

The purpose of the current study was to develop a comprehensive, valid, and reliable self-report measure of women’s sexual satisfaction. Phase I of this study involved the initial selection of items based on past literature on sexual satisfaction and an exploratory factor analysis (N = 538) of the SSS-W which resulted in two relational (communication, compatibility) and one personal (contentment) sexual satisfaction domains that were supported by factor analyses. Also, in Phase I additional items based on interviews of women with diagnosed sexual dysfunction were written to address a second domain of personal sexual satisfaction, namely distress. Phase II involved an additional administration of the SSS-W (N = 119) and further refinement of the questionnaire items that resulted in two relational and two personal domains supported by factor analyses: communication, compatibility, contentment, and concern. Phase III involved refinement of the concern questions, the addition of items addressing personal concern regarding relationship issues, and administration of the final 30-item SSS-W to a sample of women with clinically diagnosed sexual dysfunction and controls (N = 181).

The final 30-item SSS-W consists of five domains (two relational; three personal) of six items each: communication, compatibility, contentment, relational concern, and personal concern. Items in the communication, compatibility, and contentment domains were written to reflect themes relating to sexual satisfaction noted in prior literature. Specifically, these domains include items relating to ease and comfort such as discussing sexual and emotional issues (communication), compatibility between partners in terms of sexual beliefs, preferences, desires, and attraction (compatibility), and overall global contentment with emotional and sexual aspects of the relationship (contentment). In two separate factor analyses of 538 and 119 sexually functional women, the items in these three domains loaded consistently on the same factors. When administered to a group of sexually dysfunctional women, the pattern was somewhat less clear, with several items in the Contentment and Communication domains loading on different factors. These exceptions were however, theoretically interpretable. For example, the Contentment item referring to “emotional closeness” loaded most highly on Compatibility and Relational Concern; the Contentment item “something is missing from my sex life” loaded equally on Contentment, Compatibility, and Relational Concern. In addition, domain intercorrelations between contentment, communication, and the three other domains were low to moderate among women with FSD (0.14–0.56), providing additional support for the independence of these factors.

Items in the personal sexual satisfaction domains of Relational Concern and Personal Concern were written based on the responses of women with diagnosed sexual dysfunction who replied to the question “Do your sexual concerns distress you? If so, why?” This aspect of sexual satisfaction was included to specifically address the diagnostic criterion “personal distress.” To our knowledge, only one study to date has empirically addressed the issue of personal distress. In a well-designed series of studies, Derogatis and colleagues presented data supporting the validity and reliability of a 12- item unidimensional measure of personal distress. We believe that the findings reported here support the distinction between personal and relational aspects of distress. Responses from the women experiencing sexual dysfunction revealed distress specifically concerning their personal well-being and sexual fulfillment, and distress regarding the impact of their sexual problems on their partner and relationship at large. The results of two separate factor analyses provided support for these two distinct distress factors. We believe that determining whether a woman is distressed for personal or relational reasons could substantially impact her motivation toward treatment and, consequently, the likelihood of treatment efficacy.

Psychometric evaluation of the final 30-item SSS-W in a sample of women meeting DSM-IV-TR criteria for female sexual dysfunction, and in a control sample provided preliminary evidence of the measures reliability and validity. Internal consistency coefficients (Cronbach’s alpha) were in the acceptable range for all domains among both sexually functional and dysfunctional women. Correlations between initial SSS-W responses and those obtained 4–5 weeks later were in the moderate range for functional and dysfunctional women demonstrating acceptable stability of the SSS-W across measurement intervals. In terms of concurrent and divergent validity, correlations between the FSFI Satisfaction domain and SSS-W domain scores varied substantially. In women with FSD and control women, FSFI Satisfaction was moderately correlated with the SSS-W Contentment domain. With the exception of the Compatibility domain, which was also moderately correlated with FSFI Satisfaction in control women, the remaining factors showed only weak correlations with the FSFI Satisfaction domain among functional and dysfunctional women. These findings support the need for a comprehensive measure of sexual satisfaction. Divergence of the SSS-W from marital satisfaction was indicated by low to moderate correlations between SSS-W domain scores and scores on the Locke-Wallace marital adjustment scale for both FSD and control women. On the other hand, regressions of SSS-W domains on global marital satisfaction and global sexual satisfaction revealed a divergent pattern of relations for the SSS-W domains that supports a basic distinction between affective and relational components of sexual satisfaction.

Domain intercorrelations were generally lower for the FSD versus control group, suggesting that sexual satisfaction may be a more unified construct among sexually functional than dysfunctional women. The ability of the SSS-W to discriminate between sexually functional women and women clinically diagnosed with a sexual dysfunction was demonstrated for each of the SSS-W domain scores as well as for the total score.

The text of 1 Corinthians 7 reminds both husband and wife that their bodies belong to each other when intimacy is the topic.  This text is actually saying to each spouse that indeed there are personal expectations each bring into the marriage about sexual intercourse, but also there are relational expectations that must now be considered because of being married.  Sexual gratification sometimes become gratifying because the other spouse is being fulfilled.  When gratification is seen as each spouse attempting to “personally” be the one to satisfy the other, then the marriage will experience “relational” gratification as well.

What is you attitude about sexual gratification within marriage?



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