Rules….For You and Not For Me?
March 8, 2016

Historically, the law has two copies.  One copy is for those who are the least embraced by a community, town, state or within a country.  The other copy is for those who are seated in power, wealth, politically connected or feared by others.  This argument can easily be traced by at least 2000 years.  In the Roman Empire history records a man named Felix.  Felix was born somewhere between 5 and 10 A.D. According Tacitus he was appointed the position of procurator though the influence of his brother Pallas.  Felix was cruel and ruled by taking bribes and utilizing threats and fear according to Josephus in Antiquity of The Jews.  Felix’s style of rule lead to more crime because individuals of status knew that with the proper bribes their crimes would potentially be overlooked.  The politics governing Rome of 2000 years past in many ways became the blueprint of our current form of government that we call a democracy.  Democracy  has the declarations that were the stated, accepted, and written will of the people.   Prominent individuals such as Felix understood the written declarations for a price could be ignored, modified, enforced inconsistently toward those who were willing to pay monetarily or with a type of “this for that” favor. The entire duration of Felix’s rule was constantly filled with unrest and ongoing conflict within his ranks.

An excellent illustration of the above story regarding Felix is found in the book of Acts 24:24-27. And after certain days, when Felix came with his wife Drusilla, which was a Jewess, he sent for Paul, and heard him concerning the faith in Christ.  And as he reasoned of righteousness, temperance, and judgment to come, Felix trembled, and answered, Go thy way for this time; when i have a convenient season, i will call for thee.   He hoped also that money should have been given him of Paul, that he might loose him:  wherefore he sent for him the oftener, and communed with him.  But after two years Porcius Festus came into Felix’ room:  and Felix, willing to show the Jews a pleasure, left Paul bound.

The facts of Acts 24:24-27 are:  Felix and his wife Drusilla after hearing Paul, knew that he was a man of integrity, worthy of respect, knowledgeable, respected government and loved God.  Felix and his wife Drusilla were intimidated by the astuteness of Paul because of their personal desires for adoration and control.  Felix and his wife Drusilla attempted to set a political and religious trap to discredit Paul;  if he had offered a bribe it would be an admission to him having a flawed character.  Felix and his wife Drusilla were willing to bring public shame upon the must upright man of their day because the refused to be broken by compromising his values.

 

For individuals who do not necessarily ascribe to the Bible as factual, there can be no denying of the external documentation of how Felix and others within the Roman Empire governed.  Equally, there can be no denying that our form of government is a derivative of the Roman form of government complete with the Executive, Judicial and Legislative branches.

Philippians 3:16 might serve as a 21st Century reminder that our United States Constitution is the rule book for every citizen of America and it should not be up for bribes, ignoring, or retribution toward those that one disagrees.  Nevertheless, wereto we have already attained, let us walk by the same rule, let us mind the same thing. kjv

In the words of George Washington: the due administration of justice is the firmest pillar of good Government

Growing Into “Self”
January 2, 2016

When a child is delivered a few questions asked by most parents are: Is it a boy or a girl; does the child have ten toes and ten fingers; does the child look more like the mother or father; is everything else alright, etc.  From birth children require a conductor that is dedicated to developing the growth ability of the child physically, emotionally, socially and spiritually.  The lack of proper food for example will lead to malnutrition and possible starvation.  The joyful parent(s) who take the child home into a highly charged environment of hostility, fighting, streaming, physical violence will cause the child to be on edge, withdrawn, tense, angry, and even attempting to always please others in an attempt to avoid future exposure to emotional abuse.  Children come home with their parents from the hospital equipped with an empty social canvas eager to be developed.  Social interactions such as parental smiles, parental touch and time spent with the child, parental protection of the child, parental interactions one with the other all contribute to healthy socialization of children.  Every child has the potential for spiritual development.  Worldwide children possess an internal will to be in alliance with a power beyond self.  Children may also learn to fight against the belief that there is a God who is sovereign or children may learn to falsely advocate on behalf of an equality of multiple gods.

No child has grown into self without the assistance of others.  The “others” of choice for children are their parents.  The “others” of choice for child development is not left up to the child to select.  Growing into self without assistance is like the parent who attempts to only rely on self and no one else in life.  Growing into self might produce an undeveloped or a properly developed individual.  Below are a few questions to consider when attempting to determine how you have grow.

  1.  I have little to no problems trusting others
  2. I socialize with others because I enjoy being around people who accept me as I am
  3. I have a high amount of empathy for others
  4. I serve God because he loves me not because of fear
  5. I love others because I learned love from people who loved me

Each of us can grow up to be a bringer of blessings and goodwill into the lives of ourselves and others or a mis-user of both the goodwill and blessings of others.

The self we are is known by the fruit of our existence.  Are you willing to chance asking others who really know you to honestly share with you what the see and areas of growth that you could continue to grow more complete?

Luke 2:40,52

The Year Ahead….Never Measure It By The Year Gone By
January 1, 2016

Exactly 365 days ago I made several decisions, which are also known as resolutions. that to a large degree have been adhered to as I approach 2016.  Most people who are successful in making improvements throughout the year have the following mindset:

  1.  A clear understanding about why they should change
  2. A plan that at least is a blueprint mapping the path to change
  3. A support system that holds one accountable
  4. An attitude that being knocked down isn’t to be seen as defeat
  5. A belief system which allows for incorrect decisions

When 2016 opens its door in just a few hours, walk through them with an optimism that a setback is never to be accepted as failure but an opportunity for reflection, restructuring, and returning to the task that you are resolved to master.

It’s The Law…..But Whose Law?
June 26, 2015

Earlier today in a 6 to 4 decision The United States Supreme Court has ruled that according to the “Law of The United States Constitution” Marriage is now legal according to the government.

The Supreme Court has found a constitutional right to same-sex marriage, striking down bans in 14 states and handing a historic victory to the gay rights movement that would have been unthinkable just 10 years ago.

According to Supreme Just Kennedy,  “The word that keeps coming back to me in this case is millennia,” he said then, referencing the amount of time societies had considered marriage to be only between a man and a woman.

But Kennedy was swayed by the fact that hundreds of thousands of married same-sex couples already exist and that they — and their children — are being treated differently by the law when they move to a state that doesn’t recognize their union. The states in the case also had trouble articulating why they had a compelling reason to deny that recognition, saying only that it was in the interest of children to only allow couples of the opposite sex to marry.

The responsibility of each person in the world not just the United States of America is to respect each individual as a person who is created by God for his glory and honor.  Each individual in the entire world has a responsibility to acknowledge that we are created in the image of God and honor our creator for investing inside every person the ability to show joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, patience, love and an ability to forgive one another.

Today’s Supreme Court ruling in a strange way has somehow concluded that being created in the imagine of God somehow allows the entire world population who is created in God’s image to “legally” engage in transactions as decided by local jurisdictions instead of our creator.

What must also be considered is globally what is seen as the expectation of all people in matters.  For instance, the ruling today by our Supreme Court represents only a small sampling of how this same topic is viewed worldwide by over 195 Countries instead of a sampling of a few:

U.S. Department of State

The United States’ State Department recognizes 195 independent countries around the world. Their list of 195 countries reflects the political agenda of the United States of America and its allies. Missing from the State Department’s list is one entity that may or may not be considered a country, depending on who you talk to.

The One Outsider

Taiwan meets the requirements of independent country or state status. However, due to political reasons, it fails to be recognized by the international community as independent.

As it stands, the following 18 countries have legalized same-sex marriage and two allow the union to take place in some jurisdictions.

COUNTRIES WHERE SAME-SEX MARRIAGE IS LEGAL

2000 The Netherlands

2003 Belgium

2005 Canada

2005 Spain

2006 South Africa

2009 Sweden

2009 Norway

2010 Portugal

2010 Iceland

2010 Argentina

2012 Denmark

2013 Uruguay

2013 New Zealand

2013 France

2013 England / Wales

2013 Brazil

2014 Luxembourg

2014 Scotland

COUNTRIES WHERE SAME-SEX MARRIAGE IS LEGAL IN SOME JURISDICTIONS

2003 United States

2009 Mexico

Source: Pew Research Center, January, 2015

Here’s my summary, statistics was a class that I didn’t like in my Masters or PhD studies but it has proven to be helpful in so many ways.  But for this analysis statistical analysis isn’t necessary only simple division of 18/195 = .0923076923.  This means that today’s Supreme Court ruling is in the eyes of the world a minority ruling instead of a majority ruling.  The Supreme Court ruling today represents more like a 10% in favor verses 90% opposed world ruling.

In God’s sight it would look more like 0% in favor vs. 100% opposed to the Supreme Court’s ruling.

Acts 5:29-32  Peter and other apostles replied:  “We must obey God rather than human beings!  The God of our ancestors raised Jesus from the dead whom you killed by hanging him on a cross.  God exalted him to his own right had as Prince and Savior that he might bring Israel to repentance and forgive their sins.We are witnesses of these things, and so is the Holy Spirit, whom God has given to those who obey him.  When they heard this, they were furious and wanted to put them to death.

In the process of obeying God, we always respect the humanity of everyone.  In the process of obeying God, we never speak in an unkind manner against our government but rather always pray for those that are leading our country.

 

Domestic Violence – It’s Clearly A Crime – Just Not Clearly Defined In Legal Circles
September 8, 2014

Intimate partner violence includes rape, sexual assault, robbery, aggravated assault, and simple assault by a current or former spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend. This report presents trends in intimate partner violence by sex, and examines intimate partner violence against women by the victim’s age, race and Hispanic origin, marital status, and household composition. Data are from the National Crime Victimization Survey (NCVS), which collects information on nonfatal crimes reported and not reported to the police from a nationally representative sample of U.S. households.

Take a look at this video and decide what type of crime is being committed?  Is it simple assault, attempted murder, a felony, or a misunderstanding?  Depending upon the officer, the prosecutor, who the person committing the action is or who the individual on the receiving end of the action is, determines how the incident is handled.

http://www.tmz.com/videos/0_ekaflcqq

Females living in households comprised of one female adult with children experienced intimate partner violence at a rate more than 10 times higher than households with married adults with children and 6 times higher than households with one female only.

Females ages 18 to 24 and 25 to 34 generally experienced the highest rates of intimate partner violence.

From 1994 to 2010, about 4 in 5 victims of intimate partner violence were female.

According to The U.S. Department of Justice in a July 1996 National Institute of Justice report to Congress under the Violence Against Women Act:

Within the criminal justice system, data collection is complicated by the division of
responsibilities across many independent entities—law enforcement agencies,
prosecutors, courts, and corrections. Although some local jurisdictions have
established integrated criminal justice information systems, most criminal justice data
are fragmented along operational boundaries. The continued difficulties in obtaining
complete and accurate criminal history records were cited as one indicator of the
inability to track individuals as they move through the criminal justice system or
recidivate for subsequent crimes.

The U.S. Department of Justice 1996 report revealed another eyeopener:

Multi-jurisdictional—multiple State and local agencies
Because of victim and offender mobility, agencies increasingly must be able to share
information across State and local boundaries. There are several Federal and regional
efforts under way to either provide mechanisms to do this or to encourage the
development of these systems. Achieving this goal will take time, however, and many
technical and organizational obstacles will have to be overcome.
One situation where this has been identified as a serious problem is with court
protection orders because officials outside of the originating jurisdictions generally do
not have ready access to the information required for enforcement. In addition,
policies and standards for issuing court protection orders can vary from area to area, making enforcement across jurisdictional boundaries a complex issue for local authorities.

The absence of a national definition of domestic violence causes irregularities in the
inclusion/exclusion of more informal relationships such as current or ex-boyfriends/
girlfriends, roommates, and cohabitants.  For example, Michigan and Kansas
have added a box on their crime incident report forms that officers must mark to
indicate whether an incident was domestic violence related. Other States (e.g.,
Connecticut, New York, and Wisconsin) have separate forms for reporting domestic
violence. The special domestic violence report form enables States to collect offense specific
information that may be more difficult to include in a general crime incident
report form. Use of a separate form, however, does carry the physical and
psychological burden of additional paperwork, which increases the likelihood that
officers will fail to complete or submit a report.

Because domestic and sexual violence victims can face possible reprisals by the
offenders, a heavy burden of embarrassment, and other repercussions, obtaining their
cooperation can be extremely difficult for law enforcement and other agencies. The
act of reporting domestic violence and some sexual violence incidents may be
considered by victims as a last resort or as a way to make an irreparable break in a
relationship. Consequently, the victims may perceive reporting as an admission of
personal failure that they cannot face or believe is avoidable.
Additionally, the problem of adequate training of personnel in handling these cases
often was cited in the project panel discussions and survey responses. As many
jurisdictions are recognizing the seriousness of these offenses, new laws and policies
are being adopted, which in turn may require time to train all relevant staff in new
procedures and to fully implement them.

For all the above reasons, under reporting of domestic and sexual violence can be
more of a problem than for other types of offenses. Although efforts can be made to
overcome some of the factors hindering accurate reporting, some barriers may never
be completely surmounted given the nature of these crimes and the social and
behavioral issues involved.

Because identifying domestic violence crimes may involve consideration of a criminal
act, the relationship between the victim and offender, and the offender’s motive for
committing the act, properly classifying cases can be more difficult than for other
types of offenses. For example, a crime incident that would normally be considered a
property crime (e.g., a burglary, motor vehicle theft, larceny, or vandalism) could be
classified as a domestic violence incident if the perpetrator’s intent is to harass or
intimidate the victim. This may require the investigating officers to go beyond the
facts initially presented for a complaint to its possible underlying circumstances.
An additional complication for data reporting is that some States have not mandated a
specific domestic violence offense with which to charge an offender. In these
instances, the offender is charged with another offense, but his case may be flagged as
a domestic violence case for reporting purposes. Other States have broader family
violence statutes that include domestic violence.

As early as 1930 the Uniform Crime Reporting System has been in existence and all states contribute data into it in one form or another.  The UCRS was not mandatory however.  In 1980 the FBI replaced the old 1930 UCRS with the National Incident Based Reporting System NIBRS.  The new NIBRS is not mandatory for states to enter data.  Whether it’s the old UCRS reporting or the newer NIBRS reporting system, neither system has a clearly defined category for Domestic Violence under Category A or Category B Crimes. 

Time has come for our communities, schools, churches, businesses and families to demand that individuals who commit domestic violence be held accountable for their behaviors.  Men are to honor women as vessels of high value.  Women are to esteem men as one who is her point man or one who is willing to go before her.  Behaviorally, whenever domestic violence presents itself, it is certain that someone is functioning below God’s expectations.  There is never a time when domestic violence should be accepted or explained away in a civilized society.

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
April 3, 2014

Gunshots, sirens, screams, fights, body bags, fear, anxiety, worry, drug abuse, inability to focus are contributing things normally linked to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).   Imagine being exposed to such an environment day in and day out for weeks, months and God forbid years.  According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders there are at least 5 Criterion that must be met in order to diagnose PTSD:

1a.  Symptoms follow exposure to an extreme traumatic stress inducing event where the individual directly was impacted or witnessed events involving death, critical injury, threat of physical harm or threat of death.

1b.  An individuals response to events such as those in Criterion 1a are of intense fear, helplessness or even horror and agitated or disorganized behavior in younger children.

2.  The intensity experienced in 1b of fear, helplessness, horror, agitation and disorganized behavior resulting from exposure to events must be a persistent re-exposure to the traumatic event(s).

3.  The over exertion of energy to avoid stimuli associated the the initial traumatic event and a numbing of general responsiveness

4.  There is an abnormal and persistent increased arousal in the here and now that is not in line with what is happening presently.

5.  The abnormal expression of 2 – 4 above must be manifested in a person for at least on month.

6.  The abnormal expressions of an individual must cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of daily functions. 

Surprisingly it is easier for individuals to determine that individuals who have gone off to war and returned might be acting differently than it is to make a similar determination of individuals in the general population.  I recall as a boy hearing my parents talk about men who had fought in World War 2 and Korea who weren’t the same as before going off to war.  The general term used to describe the changed behavior was “shell shocked”.  Men that I grew up with went to Viet Nam and some came back very agitated, anxious, paranoid, fearful and even addicted to drugs.  Over the past decade ten’s of thousand men and women who have served in Iraq and Afghanistan have been impacted by road side bombs, direct gun fights, rocket propelled grenades and suicide bombers.  War is an incubator for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and when our men and women return home they as well as family and friends truly hope everything will be as normal as it was before they were deployed.  The sad reality in far too many cases however is that war is an ongoing traumatic theater for the duration of one’s deployment.  

Traumatic events according to The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders are not restricted to combat in the military.  Violent personal attacks such as sexual assaults, physical assaults, robbery, kidnapping, torture, imprisonment or even automobile accidents may also cause PTSD.  Children and adults in communities around the United States of America are experiencing PTSD and are many times dismissed as being socially maladjusted.  The communities where gunshots, murder, robbery, street violence exists daily, both young and old, black and white are living in exposure to the possibility of becoming victims of PTSD.  When such individuals leave the stress inducing environments of their upbringing, there is the misconception that they are able to function in a more stable work environment, a more stable community, a more stable church, a more stable marriage or more stable social settings free of the stress inducing traumatic pass.  Without any warning and regardless of where a person might find themselves,  something may trigger inside a person and they will actually experience anew the same emotions as what happened in the war zones of Iraq, Viet Nam, or even where one grew up. 

Children who were raped or constantly exposed to domestic violence and or neglect, or constantly lived in fear or witnessed chaos, might easily experience undiagnosed PTSD as an adult.  What happened at Fort Hood Texas on yesterday must be studied from the soldiers history not just based on his apparent state of mind on the day of the event, but what was his complete history from childhood, to marriage, to becoming a soldier, to the experience in Iraq and the impact of his most recent move to Texas.

Do you know individuals whose behaviors appear to be very unpredictable or agitated, suspicious of others in a manner that does not seem to bother most other individuals? 

 

When Was The Last Time You Had Sex?
April 16, 2013

On job applications, college admission forms, childcare enrollment forms, drivers license applications, and even birth certificates all want to know your sex.  When was the last time you or anyone you know put information on any of the above mentioned documents information regarding sexual activity?  In order for adults to enjoy intimacy, proper knowledge about being a male or a female is a necessary pre-requirement.

Having sexual knowledge regarding who one is, begins with parental or care providers who can teach through proper modeling and nurturing real sexual values.  Having sexual knowledge requires parents/providers who know the difference between genders.  No matter what is popular or politically and socially correct, someone must teach little boys about the unique physical differences between their bodies and the bodies of females.  The “talk” that many parents or providers have with teens take place about 10 to 12 years too late.  Teaching a child about their unique physical sexual differences should begin age appropriately as early as age 1 to 2 years of old.  Teaching boys and girls to be respectful of their physical sexual organ differences should also be taught age appropriately from age 2 ongoing into young adulthood.   Appropriate sex gender dressing and mannerism is reinforced in the home, community, social settings, and school.  If however the home has not appropriately taught and modeled male and female norms, children may easily go into settings replicating whatever they observe, hear, and are taught by their peers and other adults.

Sex therefore is not something you do first, but more about who you are.  Sex acts that are attempted without a clear knowledge of who one is, creates a state of confusion and contention which becomes a political, social and in some circles even a religious topic of factions.  These contentions and factions are not uncommon in relationships as individuals move into young adulthood.  It has been said by some that two things people should not talk about is religion and politics.  Sex as a behavior use to be another topic that people didn’t advertise.  The new norm of 201o’s  seems to not only empower people to talk about sexual behaviors but also to lobby society and anyone else who will listen to vote their way on the topic.  The conclusion from this writer is simple, there is nothing to talk about except to keep repeating what God has said about sex gender.  Romans 1:22 – 28 is the conversation about sex that individuals should be having with young children, teens and even adults.

Intimacy and Devotion
April 8, 2013

Children expect parents or loved ones to love, provide, nurture, protect and be available emotionally, physically and spiritually for them from birth until at a bare minimum of age 13 to 18 years of age.  When the basic needs of children in any country goes unmet specific predictable results manifest themselves.   According to reports from The Department of Health and Human Services, child maltreatment is the most common form of child abuse.  According to DHHS children from birth to age one, are the largest group of abused children per capita.  Almost 22 of every 1,000 children under age 1 fall into that category.  78.5% of this age group experience neglect, 17.6% experience physical abuse, and 9.1% of this young group of age 1 and under experience sexual abuse.  For the fiscal year ending 2011 over 1570 children died as the result of child neglect and abuse.  80% of these reported fatalities were under age four.  78.3% of these reported fatalities was sadly reported to have happened at the hands of one or more of their parents.

A perpetrator is defined as the individual who is the abuser or neglector of a child.  The following is a sobering story:  Over 80% of duplicate child perpetrators are a parent and 87.6 percent of those parents are the biological parent(s) rather than a step parent.  Gender wise, 19% of abuse or neglect is from the father, 38% from the mother and 18% from mother and father together.  What then does all of the data have to do with intimacy and devotion?  First, parents who neglect and abuse their children cannot truthfully claim they were intimate parents.  Second, parents who neglect and abuse their children cannot truthfully claim they were devoted to the welfare of their children.  Finally, parents who neglect and abuse their children cannot truthfully claim their actions had no impact socially, spiritually, or developmentally on their children.

In 1959 Harry F. Harlow wrote “Love In Infant Monkeys”.  Harlow discovered that monkeys depraved of the natural nurturing of their mothers during their first 8 months of early development, never fully readjusted to receiving nurturing or properly interacting with other monkeys.   Harlow postulated that likewise with humans, as the statistics above seem to confirm, where there is an absence of nurturing and intimacy, it becomes the breeding ground for neglect and abuse to become generational.  These little monkeys, unknown to themselves will almost automatically develop into aggressive, combative, none intimate void of devotion adult monkeys.  Jesus expressed his desire to nurture Israel who had been abused by the Egyptians for 400 years, abused by Assyria, abused by Babylon, abused by Rome’s brutal Emperors and so much more.  Israel could not embrace nurturing because physically and emotionally they had become desensitized.  O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, which kills the prophets and stone those that are sent to you, how often would I have gathered your children together as a nurturing hen would gather all of her young ones, but you would not allow me.  Luke 13:34  Summarily Jesus was declaring over 2000 years ago what Harry F. Harlow found in 1959.  Generational neglect and abuse disengages offspring from being able receive the very thing they have been depraved of that will heal the void left from their abusers.

Discussion Question:  How do you reconnect once a major disconnect such as this happens?

God “Fix My Life”
April 1, 2013

Last night I was watching a rerun entitled Iyana “Fix My Life” on the OWN Network.  One of the things that is consistent with Iyana is the constant redirection of people away from talking about what others have done, said, or withheld from their life and instead ask the greater question “what am I doing to fix my life instead of accusing and blaming others for where I am in life?”  Another consistent theme with Iyana is the challenge for people to look inside themselves for answers rather than searching for truth about problems by spending a lifetime trying to figure out others.  When was the last time you were honest with yourself about yourself?  When was the last time you cried out for God to strengthen you with the courage to look at yourself and maybe for the first time look at your life for what it is instead of what you are ashamed of about what it is?

In almost every show that Iyana air’s she notes that people spends a vast amount of time pointing up the things that others are doing to them.  People can only do to you what is allowed by you.  God is more than able to lead you into spending time with yourself being laid before him and asking him to remove from you a spirit that is causing you to destroy oneself emotionally.  When was the last time you asked God to fix your life from you keeping secrets about  your pain, your hurts, your disappointments?  God is able to fix secrets of sexual abuse, mistreatment by spouses, disappointments with betrayals in relationships and whatever is hurting us.  God is able to pierce through and examine and repair each down to the very marrow of our bones.  Hebrews 4:12

As I watched Iyana “Fix My Life”, every story was filled with so much pain, hurt, bitterness, fear, and unresolved inability to forgive others about what they have done to us.  People do things that hurt us and then we somehow think these same people are going to seek forgiveness for what they have done.  Forget about that ever happening for the most part.  For the most part the people who have harmed us have moved on with life without us.  Women that were molested by their fathers, children who were taken away from young mothers and given to other family members to raise, men that were abused sexually by females and males when they were younger cry out for Iyana to fix there life.   Imagine what can happen if God Fixes Your Life?  People can only facilitate healing partially.  God is able to bring complete and long term healing in life.  A major challenge for people is to trust God to do what others may have promised us like being there for us, providing us, protecting us and even loving us.  I am sorry to tell you that Iyana can’t repair those wounds the way God can.  God however is able to fix whatever is damaged, or broke, or lacking in our lives in a manner that makes us free indeed.

 

Same Sex – Where Is The Research
March 27, 2013

The United States Supreme Court is currently faced with the assignment of deciding if men can legally marry men and women can marry women.  The First Amendment promises the following:  Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.   What does who one marry have to do with religion and the constitution?  The laws and boundary of marriage are traceable back to Genesis 2.  The current debate before the courts is not about what is known about marriage, but rather about what is primarily not known about same sex marriages.  Mankind historically has defied best practice of what is known and focused upon the realm of things not understood and with open arms embrace the unknown as the best practice without knowledge.  The early days of colonizing and formulating America under the oath of freedom and justice for all, quickly reverted to a practice of enslaving Native Americans and creating an institution of slavery that lasted for over 400 years.  This was carried out by a spirit of self serving gratification and an ongoing ignoring of the historical long term results of any nation that reverted to such practice.

Debate in matters of best practice is risky when the debate is introduced and moderated by individuals whose goal is simply to change what is right and has been tested and retested over time for it’s reliability.  More is known about the interactions of men with women that is positive regarding outcome than is known about outcome of relationships between men with men or women with women.  Advocating for men marrying men or women marrying women as a national norm is less than 15 years old anywhere in the world.  The Netherlands were the first to do so on April 1, 2001 followed by Belgium on January 30, 2003 and later Spain on June 30, 2005 who was opposed by the Roman Catholic Church.  Knowing about Spain is important because this country was also the first to attach to the legalization of same sex couples the right to adopt children into the relationships.  The emotional argument regarding whether or not children should have the right to loving parents regardless of their sexual pairing is less than 10 years in existence.  There are no outcome data available to provide any statistical analysis about the long term mental, social, relational, developmental impact same sex homes have on adult children who exit such environments.

The arguments of today primarily are driven by people’s desires to exercise their democratic freedoms and not factual data.  Democracy is precious and should be cherished when it comes to social, political and human rights.  In a democratic country, people rights often take priority over what is right.  In a democratic country, morals are often determined by the desires of citizens.  In a democratic country limitations and boundaries are often translated into attempts to take away choice.  A major positive about democracy is the right to make choices.  Yet even within a democracy choices should be based upon proper analysis.  In same sex marital conversations their is almost a complete void when it comes to discussing the consequences of such relationships both short term and long term.    In scholarly research it is the researchers who are not only cautious but also determined to examine outcomes for their efficacy and side effects before presenting new finding for usage or consumption by the general population.

Regardless of the ruling made by the courts, God remains the final judge in the affairs of all mankind.  Christians should not become weary based upon the outcome of the courts in this matter.  The evidence historically from Genesis to now, keep showing that God has a way of taking the worse decisions made by humans and changing the intents into advancing heavens purpose.  Every person must ultimately stand before the judgement seat of Christ and give an accounting of relationship choices whether the choices are good or bad.  2 Corinthians 5:10